This is a post I’ve been meaning to write for a long time now. It’s one of those topics close to my heart, but because of that, I haven’t really been able to find the right words. Plus, it’s hard to be vulnerable sometimes, right?
Self love is such an important thing to learn, even though sometimes it can take a while. I struggled with this for a long time and I feel like I have only recently have come into my own, AND I’M 28! What the hell, right? It’s a tricky thing, that self love. You might think you have it, but do you really FEEL it? That’s the question. (And let’s be real, somedays it’s WAY easier than others… and that’s OK).
I always struggled with it. I’m not really sure why, I just never felt WORTHY. After failed relationships, I was always extra hard on myself. When friendships hit hard times, it weighed extra heavy on my soul. I didn’t think highly of myself and I always felt I could be better, do better, be prettier, smarter, more successful, and on and on.
Over the years, I’ve focused more on myself and I’ve settled into who I am. And I’ve grown to LIKE myself. Sounds weird to say, but it’s true. I think a lot of people struggle with this, and not everyone knows how to talk about it, or wants to talk about it. Look, I’m CLEARLY not a therapist, but I do think I have a few tips that might help you (or someone you know).
When I started Worship Worthy, I wanted it to be a platform to inspire, encourage and support women. We should stand together and help each other, right? Because if we don’t, what the hell is the point? We ALL need more EMPOWERMENT in our lives.
Here are some tips to bring a little more LOVE and ACCEPTANCE into your life. Because after all, you are WORTHY of all the love in the world (starting from within, and working it’s way out).
1. Begin your day with Love. If you start your day off with an immediate positive thought of self love, like “Damn, these jeans look great”, or something simple like “That winged eyeliner is really on point today” and give yourself a little pat on the back. Breathe in love, breathe out love. Might sound silly (and feel silly) at first, but the more you practice this, it starts to become second nature.
You have to do something for 21 days for it to become a habit, right? Well… give it shot and see what happens! Betcha you feel better…
2. Be patient with yourself. Dude, give yourself a fucking break every now and again. What’s that saying? “We’re our own worst critics”? Sounds right, so I’m going to roll with it. Life can be hard sometimes, for everyone, and it can really suck. Have some faith that you can’t see the whole picture. The universe has a funny way of working things out when you’re patient and LET GO of that urge to control everything.
3. Talk nicely to yourself. Again, silly, right? Well, it’s not. This kind of goes hand-in-hand with #1… You have to train your brain to think positively. If you tend to think negatively more often than you think positively (I’m guilty of this), this will take some time, but it can be done. You might be surprised at how well you do when you’re focusing on positivity!
4. Don’t let the bullshit others say about you, get you down. There is always going to someone with something snarky to say, some sassy, stupid (usually an uninvited one) opinion to share. We’re all flawed, in many ways, nobody is immune or perfect. So laugh them off, and move on with your day! Screw ’em!
5. Be patient. Good things take time, right? Well, you’re also entitled to make mistakes. Mistakes (and reflection on those mistakes) bring growth. We all have off days- accept them. We’re always growing and changing, so the person you are now will likely not be who you are in 5, 10 or 15 years (and maybe it SHOULDN’T be). I would think we all would want to evolve into a better version of ourselves, right? Let the changes happen- because if you give yourself time to reflect, and are more self aware, those changes are often times really great.
Doesn’t everyone go through this, though? Learning to love yourself more? I tend to think so, but let me know. Maybe I’m wrong, but I doubt it. 😉
You’re incredible. Don’t ever forget it.